When I was pregnant, I ran into a lot of naysayers. I also had many people who were encouraging, but it was the naysayers who really gave me a lot of anxiety. They would tell me things like,"Life, as you know it, is over" (said with a very pessimistic tone of voice) and "you won't be able to breastfeed twins." Strangers would say things like,"Twins? Wow - glad it's you and not me." "Good luck with that."
I understand that we want to prepare new moms for the challenges of motherhood, but I think it's inappropriate to say these things without telling expecting mommies that they will love their babies more than they knew possible, that their lives will have more depth and meaning that they could ever imagine and that motherhood is the most wonderful gift.
Don't get me wrong - there were plenty of days where I was crying, holding a screaming baby and praying that Jason's car would turn the corner onto our street. But I haven't had one of those days for months and months now. Even on those days, in those teary moments, I would have told you that I would never trade this experience for anything in the world.
So if you find yourself in tears after your babies are born, know that you're not a bad mom. Every mom has had those moments. (I have had many, many of those moments.) Don't think that every other mom has rainbows and sunshine at their immaculate house with their hair perfectly coiffed as they pull a hot meal out of the oven and have two happy smiling 2-week-old twins. That's just not realistic.